Finding time...

Pass the coffee please, I need to stay awake!

I'm busy these days, and tired, and leaning heavily on the sweet nectar of caffeine. Making the most out of my time and finding more of it, is my big issue lately. How do I do it? How does anyone find time to parent, have a relationship, work several jobs, take care of a home, pets, and find time to write? Or do whatever your passion is? You will notice that I have intentionally left out exercise or taking care of myself...these days that means chasing my little one around, eating dinner before 9:00pm and getting 6 hours sleep!

I am always amazed by people who say that they only sleep 4 hours a night, and feel fantastic! I wonder if they also do everything themselves during those other 20 hours that they are awake? Do they have assistants, nannies, housekeepers, chefs, dogwalkers, and someone to blowdry their hair everyday so that they don't have to always wear it in a bun? Okay, I admit that last one isn't really a question, but a secret wish of mine. But seriously now, whether you have kids or don't, anyone I know who is working for themselves these days, works way over 50 hours a week. Being self employed means answering emails until 10:00pm at night, because your iphone/smart phone and laptop are your office and it's useless to pretend that you don't check your email, so if you are checking it, then you might as well respond to it...and the next thing you know it's 11:00pm.

I recently had this conversation with a friend and colleague, we were on a work call past 10:00pm, and we both admitted that we have never known what it means to clock in and out at a job. We work Monday- Saturday, taking Sundays off until after dinner time, when we get a jump start on all that has to be tackled the week ahead. Another self employed professional writer friend of mine works until 10:00pm every night, cause if she didn't, she couldn't get it all done. Only recently I told a client that I try to unplug at 9:30pm and not to panic if I didn't return email. But then I promptly broke my own rule and emailed him back several days in a row well past that self imposed deadline, because I wouldn't have time to do it in the morning. He laughed and asked me if I was only working a half day? He was teasing of course, ribbing me good-naturedly, as I had started our correspondence sometime that day around 6:00am.

The truth is, I am a workaholic, but I also need to work this much right now. My big concern, is what about my own writing? Because it too needs hours to be dedicated to it, and at the end of the day, I am too tired and too fried to have anything left to give it.

How do you find time to grow your art? Do you spend time on it first thing in the morning, or last thing at night?

Any advice is appreciated. And if you have a time machine and a pot of gold, I'll take that too!


Doing what we can and doing it well

I worked in an office this week, and as far as offices go, it's a beauty. Well, as far as buildings go, it's a beauty. Truly. And I drove happily to work each day that I had to be there. I got a job. A job-job. A job that interests me and uses my skills as a writer and namer and brander and is flexible. I get to work part time from home and part time in the office and I work for a fabulous boss, who is excited about what I bring to the table and also is teaching me so much in the best possible way...sharing information and including me in the process. It is pretty much a dream situation and I just hope that it goes on and on and on.

I also was an actress briefly again this week, and had a great callback, but I didn't get it. They liked the blonde. I think she matched the kids. And I was so upset with myself that I didn't get the spot, that I couldn't make them want me. But how? How would I do that, I am who I am and look the way I look and to be upset that the director doesn't like my hair color is ridiculous. My skills weren't being rejected, it wasn't because my 'work' wasn't any good, it was not about me. I can only do a great audition, to get a callback and after that it is about who looks right with who. For someone like me who always strives to do more, to not be able to 'do' anything about a situation is frustrating.

It was a great contrast; my new job that is all about my skills, and the job I lost that wasn't about them at all. Here's to being valued for what I can do and do well.
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